Comments on: A little resolution is better than nothing http://www.ewav.com/2006/01/09/a-little-resolution-is-better-than-nothing/ We put the naked pontificating in clog dancing. Tue, 07 Oct 2008 18:27:32 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: mzmbabies http://www.ewav.com/2006/01/09/a-little-resolution-is-better-than-nothing/#comment-170 mzmbabies Wed, 11 Jan 2006 20:45:48 +0000 http://www.ewav.com/ncd/2006/01/09/a-little-resolution-is-better-than-nothing/#comment-170 No matter whether uneducated, sophisticated, intelligent, when it comes to relationships, everyone runs the same gamut of emotions, obsessive thoughts. Freedom from uncertainty, letting go unfetters the mind and heart. Its getting to that point is painful. Knowing someone so well enables the formation of a button pushing arsenal . A battlefield, albeit without blood. The more intelligent the person, the more subtle button pushing becomes. Patterns of behavior that ultimately become the relationship core. Happiness, anger, frustration, venting..repeated over and over. Rational thought become difficult when love is involved As the button-pushing build-up leads to blow-up, which eventually results in break-up, remorse often sets in. Followed by discussion and apologies and intimacy, the path back into the doomed relationship brings snippets of happiness followed by months afflicting anguish and torment. Patterns of destructive behavior develop. After the final, proverbial, “straw that broke the camel’s back” situation, and resulting anger, both the Breakup-or and the Breakup-ee experience doubts, have longings for the “good times” . Feeble attempts are reconciliation lead nowhere. Wondering how did it get to this point when we cared about each other so much at one time. Over time, those feelings will vacillate between anger, remorse, longing. Clinging to hope that perhaps somehow things might work out, they will come back and we will work it out. Breakups are humbling. As you mention the most liberating feeling of all is when it is finally over, the relationship is now part of your memoirs. Another chapter in your evolving student of life story. mzm No matter whether uneducated, sophisticated, intelligent, when it comes to relationships, everyone runs the same gamut of emotions, obsessive thoughts. Freedom from uncertainty, letting go unfetters the mind and heart. Its getting to that point is painful.

Knowing someone so well enables the formation of a button pushing arsenal . A battlefield, albeit without blood. The more intelligent the person, the more subtle button pushing becomes. Patterns of behavior that ultimately become the relationship core. Happiness, anger, frustration, venting..repeated over and over. Rational thought become difficult when love is involved

As the button-pushing build-up leads to blow-up, which eventually results in break-up, remorse often sets in. Followed by discussion and apologies and intimacy, the path back into the doomed relationship brings snippets of happiness followed by months afflicting anguish and torment. Patterns of destructive behavior develop.

After the final, proverbial, “straw that broke the camel’s back” situation, and resulting anger, both the Breakup-or and the Breakup-ee experience doubts, have longings for the “good times” . Feeble attempts are reconciliation lead nowhere.

Wondering how did it get to this point when we cared about each other so much at one time. Over time, those feelings will vacillate between anger, remorse, longing. Clinging to hope that perhaps somehow things might work out, they will come back and we will work it out.

Breakups are humbling. As you mention the most liberating feeling of all is when it is finally over, the relationship is now part of your memoirs. Another chapter in your evolving student of life story.
mzm

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